I've tried Flylady.com, read all the organizing websites and blogs I could to get a handle on my situation, but nothing has helped me overcome the real problem. While talking with one of my sisters I realized mentally and emotionally there is something in me that just doesn't want to let go of the "stuff". So, how do I overcome this?
Some people don't understand why someone like me can't throw away or get rid of all the junk. They ask questions like, "Why do you need this or that?" It is not a matter of needing or wanting something, it is a matter of attachment. For me, it seems to be more like, "It's mine and nothing you say will make me let it go." I must want to let it go.
One thing I've found has worked for me in the past few days is to have a vision of how I want a room to look. Every time my focus is pulled away from that vision it is harder to throw things away. If you are able to find a picture from a magazine or a book of how you want the room to look, hang it in a prominent area while you are cleaning. Here is a picture I have been using:
I tried to find photos that represented a more realistic view of my apartment. The living room is a little unrealistic in size, but the colors and homey feel is what I was looking for. I'm obviously not a minimalist, but that doesn't mean I want cluttered.
My son and I started today to rid our home of 50 things, and we'll continue this process every day until we reach our goal.
How do you make decisions on what stays and what goes in your home?
I have a hard time getting rid of stuff too so I cant help!!! Good for you for making steps.
ReplyDeleteI read your "hoarding confession" last night and it really struck a chord with me- I was actually about to do a similar post before my computer crashed (working off of an iPad). I stumbled upon that hoarding show on Netflix a few weeks ago and it was quite an eye opener! I'd say I am a mini-hoarder. My house can be pretty organized, but I have isolated spots that I "save" things in. The real nudge for me was when I heard what the hoarders had to say about their "stuff"- I heard my own rational coming out of there mouths. Eek!
ReplyDeleteIn the last week or so, I have filled a large recycle bin, thrown away a lot of junk, and hauled off several extra large hefty bags to the Goodwill! I am looking forward to being done with it.
Good luck with you efforts! I know you are going to do it.
I loved your thoughts today. I read a book several years ago entitled Side Track Home Executive; From Pig Pen to Paradise. It gave details on how to keep your house clean constantly by doing little steps each day. Also, a big chapter on gtting rid of things. I am again trying to do that my life now. Ihave a plan and hope to accomplish getting rid of a ton of items this year. Just take my kitchen drawers they have double and triple items of the same thing and I only need one.
ReplyDeleteIt's a challenge!
Blessings to you!!
That's so funny, Leann, as I have Pam and Peggy's book. My mother purchased it back in the late 70's and I've read it many times.
ReplyDeleteI've even tried their card system to no avail. Chores do get done around our home, but it's discouraging to dust and vacuum around boxes of stuff.
If it wasn't for my son I'm not sure I wouldn't be a dirty hoarder, but he has had health issues that won't allow me to let the dirt pile up.
Thank you for your encouragement. I hope to be as inspiring to others as Sharla has been to me. "The truth shall set you free."
I am a minimalist. My husband is not. Result? Boxes and boxes of his stuff that I have tucked away 'somewhere'. It did me good to read this and know that other people struggle with the same things he does. Makes me a little more sympathetic. I hope.
ReplyDeleteI have a hard time throwing things out because I always rationalize and tell myself that if it only stayed organized it wouldn't look so messy. Anyway, I have had to really work on not collecting so much "stuff" especially school things like supplies, books, curriculum! Best wishes on making your home beautiful the way you want it!
ReplyDeleteI am a hoarder of all things school related and clothes:). I struggled getting rid of stuff but when my mind is made up (which isn't often enough) stuff has to go. Except books I tend to keep them forever:)
ReplyDeleteI am so touched that you were inspired by me sharing my struggle. I've actually considered hosting a link-up "Truth Tuesdays" for people to get real about anything they are struggling with. When we are open about our struggles, it takes some of the power out of it and gives that power back to God. You choosing me as a Shining Blog because of my clutter series may just give me the push I need to follow through on my link-up idea. (I haven't yet because I am afraid that no one would link up!)
ReplyDeleteAnyway, thank you and I want you to know that I am rooting for you and that because I understand the struggle, I will also be praying for you.